When I started dating a woman for the first time after years of happily dating men, I had a go-to joke ready for when I was called upon to explain my sexual orientation to the confused: “I’m half gay.
Only on my mom’s side of the family.” I’m one of those people who’d always misguidedly “hated labels,” and I actively eschewed the term “bisexual” for years.
And yet, dating a man who identifies as bisexual remains a taboo.
A few taps of Google drags up countless pieces dissecting the question ‘would you date a bisexual guy?
They aren't depraved or polymorphously perverse incarnations of uninhibited sexual mores; they're just folks who are attracted to both sexes. Some pass for straight or gay or allow others to make their own assumptions.
Meanwhile, a survey by But by seeing bisexuality as a deal-breaker, heterosexual women might not only be unwittingly dodging perfectly decent partners, but the best.
It isn’t difficult to imagine that for some, the promise of a bit more social currency and safety could be compelling reasons to seek out an opposite-sex partner, even unconsciously.
Americans have a well-documented tendency to drastically overestimate the percentage of queer folks among us.
As a result, a het-seeming bisexual reads as Straight Gay, whereas a bisexual that acts Camp Gay is likely to be seen as subverting the stereotypes associated with a camp persona.
Actual bisexual stereotypes are generally limited to glam rockers, hippies, swingers and other flamboyant presentations of alternative sexuality.