The two services used by these individuals were OKCupid and Match.com, two of the largest and most popular dating websites on the Internet.
What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons.
You can’t watch as they smile, and that smile spreads up into their eyes and transforms their face into one of the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen – a thing that warms your heart and makes you realize you want to spend more time with the person. Unfortunately, the reality is nowhere near that fantasy.
To get some insight into what women go through on these dating websites, I pulled aside one of my family members who I knew had spent some time on these sites looking for her future spouse.
These repeated disappointments inevitably lead people to feeling frustrated with dating and to losing hope that one day they will meet someone special with whom they will have this amazing chemistry and mutual romantic connection.
Frustration with dating and relationships with the opposite sex never helps anyone but only worsens any situation making a person angry, anxious and/or needy and desperate, which in turn further reduces the likelihood that he/she will be able to turn his/her dating life around.
One of the most effective ways of recovering from negative dating experiences and not allowing yourself to get frustrated with dating is realizing and remembering that we, humans, as a matter of fact do not like the vast majority of things and it’s quite natural and normal.Overall, they report that there is often little incentive for men to date and even less for them to consider long-term commitments.In a previous article, I put forward the notion that individuals were not "afraid" to date—rather they simply did not have sufficient incentive to do so (see here).Tinder seems to be trying to break out of its “hook-up app” reputation with the release of a new feature called “Going Out” that encourages users and their friends to meet up with other friend groups through the app.Select “I’m Going Out” on your profile, select at least one friend who also uses Tinder to go out with, and then match with other groups of people who are also going out tonight.