Using condoms, having a partner on Pr EP, being undetectable and choosing not to have penetrative sex also work.
It's not just frowned upon to have sex without disclosing you're HIV-positive, it's illegal in Canada, even if you use a condom or have a low viral load (but not both).
) who really wants to get to the bottom of why I have noticed a pattern in my own sex life: I have encountered several men who tell me they are positive but undetectable and, on that basis, persistently ask for condomless sex, often refusing to have sex at all if I insist on using a condom.
I feel cautious opening up a discussion about this preference for condomless sex amongst HIV-positive men because I am not HIV-positive and do not want to contribute to the stigma people living with HIV face, but I talk about this from a place of compassion and eagerness to understand.
If you're sexually active, just assume at some point you may have come across a victim of the virus.
I’m a HIV-negative guy (as far as I know from my last test!I want to avoid generalising about all men who are HIV positive – and focus specifically on the behaviour around condomless sex.When asked about my status I say ‘as far as I know’ because I understand I might have an STI or HIV and not know it yet."Even today, people still have a reaction when you tell them you've dated an HIV-positive person.How many of us can say with 100 per cent certainty he or she hasn't?