Recently, I’ve been getting a lot of private Facebook messages from baby lesbians who are freshly out of the closet and asking me all kinds of questions:“How do I date girls? I will never forget how terrified I was when I first realized I wanted to exclusively swim in the girl pond. I exerted zero effort into attracting boy creatures, but I learned quickly that I didn’t really need to. It can feel wildly intimidating to be a little, vulnerable kitten tossed into a teeming cesspool of seasoned dykes.Consider yourself warned: gross generalizations will be made. Listen, it’s not your fault you developed language and reading skills faster than us, but if you want a text back after your next date, try listening more and talking less.One time, I ran into one of my girlfriend’s dates, and I asked him why he didn’t text my friend back.The second you start to evaluate your date two incredible things happen.There isn’t a whole lot you can do about the fact that you’re a shy guy.But I've learned that those romantic conventions don't work when you are trying to date a queer person.
As I lost more weight and gained muscle mass, I began to notice a change in my looks.
For over a decade, I’ve had the privilege of playing the role of gay best friend to many intelligent, funny and gorgeous women throughout my career as a practicing homosexual.
Gay guys and straight gals have a special bond due to our common interests (e.g.
Being a shy guy makes dating difficult, to say the least.
As a shy guy, you likely experience your share of problems with going out there and meeting other men, and you probably feel even greater stress when it comes time to actually ask those men out on a date.