Sometimes the chasing/pulling away gets so extreme that it sours the whole relationship 3) They get angry and promise to not make the first move. He doesn’t care what people think and is never shy about public affection when we’re at school (I’m getting my MBA, remember? He lets me in on his crazy stream of conscious thoughts. Also, one of the draw backs of dating in business school is that you see your partner all the time. I’m sounding like one of those cheesy romantic self-help books but it’s true, I’ve had this epiphany and I wanted to share it.
This works as it gives the dude his space, but, the woman doesn’t enjoy it and can become bitter/jaded. When he’s like this it becomes abundantly clear that I am his favorite person. Lets see how it goes…I have lots of homework to do anyway and lots of plans set up this week.
Since then the sexes or aliens or whatever they/we are have been at war! men, according to Gray, value; Power, competency, efficiency and achievement. When a maaaan loves a woman, as the song goes, he acts like a rubber band.
Stretching away to assert his own independence and to check he actually wants you, before coming springing back like a massive bastard.
Men, on the other hand, have greater brain hemisphere separation, which explains their skills for abstract reasoning and visual-spatial intelligence.”The greatest mistake we can ever make in a relationship, is to assume that our other half has the same needs and feelings as ourselves.
As John Gray wrote, “we mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways – the ways we react and behave when we love someone,” and as the author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus he clearly identified, “when men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.”So before you dump your beau, check out a few of these principles in what I like to call my ‘XY Files’ (ho ho).
The theory that most applies in this very instant is—The Rubber Band Theory. I have always appreciated this juxtaposition but never connected it to the Rubber Band Theory until right now. When he goes out with the boys (I’m usually there with other people…it’s a small town = not many bars) I notice that he’s just talking in a corner with his 4 buddies drinking beer.Sounds like you’re having a rough time with the old relationship. I experienced something similar, and in my case, the “sudden” breakup was closely tied to his own stress level than anything in the relationship itself.I am focusing on the reason behind men’s withdraw from relationships.Womankind has matched mankind in intelligence, physical agility, business acumen and balls, but still one area remains as baffling to us as the Bermuda triangle; and that is the male himself.Despite the thousands of books claiming to demystify the male psyche, create a happy marriage, and ‘make him want you’, most women still remain very much in the dark, and therefore trapped in a vicious cycle of rubbish relationships.